Appreciations - Sally Ellsworth

For Sally Ellsworth

With Loving Respect

This world “Mother Earth� so

Aware on this day

A formidable force

Is missing today.

A knowing strong oak

Of simple life birth,

A true Cinderella who

Lived here on earth.

Was truth in your face

Support with such grace

Yet striking in strength

Not forgetting a face.

Unusual wit

Fierce, loyal and strong

Held court here on earth

Did right what went wrong.

— C. Kalser

Lakeville

When we came to town 20 years ago, Sally adopted us. She introduced us to people. She generously lent us her New York apartment; that’s how our children grew to love the city, and, when they were ready, moved there. 

As board president of what was then the Housatonic Center for Mental Health, she was a constant source of support and energy, even in her 70s. 

But most of all she just let us in on the grand adventure that was her life.  She loved us, and we loved her.

—Richard, Robin, Sarah and Michael O’Connor

Lakeville, Brooklyn and Venice, Calif.

I first knew Sally Ellsworth in the mid-1950’s when we were both on the  board of what was then the Housatonic Center for Mental Health. 

I often wondered how somebody who had been baptized “Helenâ€� could have  become known to her many friends as “Sally.â€� I had been going to ask her, but now I never shall because Sally Ellsworth died at her Salisbury home last week, after a very long illness. She will be mourned by many.

Sally was born near Boston more than 90 years ago and, in many ways,  she typified what has come to be thought of as “a Bostonian Grande Dame.â€�

  She loved to entertain and did so without any social pretentions. She was a very generous hostess but, even more important, she was generous in so many other ways.  As her longtime friend Martha Atchley said, “she was devoted to the Salisbury community, to her family and friends.â€�

Before coming to Salisbury and during World War II, Sally drove for the Red Cross in England. After the Normandy invasion, I always remember  Sally’s story of sailing from England to France a few days after D-Day  in order to be able to drive members of the military when needed. She had a British roommate on the boat that would take them overnight to cross the Channel.  She heard her roommate rustling around at bedtime and was told that the roommate was putting on a black satin nightgown because if their boat sank the roommate wanted to go to the bottom in black satin.

Sally’s work with the Red Cross was just one example of her community spirit, which extended to Fisher’s Island, where she spent many happy summers, and to Salisbury.

Arthur Rosenblatt in Norfolk spoke of how Sally exemplified, for him,  “an era that is all too quickly disappearing. She was a very elegant and generous hostess. I wish I had known her longer so that I could have enjoyed more of her friendship.â€�  

Sally could be difficult at times, but aren’t we all? She was a mainstay of the Mental Health Center and worked for better housing for many of Salisbury’s less fortunate citizens. She did not look upon us as a weekend-only community and for that I am deeply grateful. Sally, we’ll miss you very much.

—Charlotte Reid

Lakeville

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