Frank Arnold Dearstyne

SHARON — Frank Arnold Dearstyne, 87, passed away, after a prolonged illness, on Aug. 15, 2010, while at the Sharon Health Care Center. He was the husband of Shirley Dearstyne.

Born in Rensselaer, N.Y., on Dec. 30, 1922, he was the son of Gladys J. (Hagaman) and Lester King Dearstyne.

Frank graduated from Albany High School in Albany, N.Y., and then joined the U.S. Air Force in 1943. He spent the next 20 years serving his country and traveling the world as a French horn instrumentalist in the United States Air Force Band and Orchestra.

He retired from the Air Force in 1963 as a master sergeant, having earned the Air Force Band Unit Citation, the Good Conduct Medal, the Air Force Outstanding Unit Award, the National Defense Service Medal and the World War II Victory Medal.

After leaving the military, Frank worked for 20 years as a computer programmer for the U.S. government, serving in the Department of Housing and Urban Development.

He then moved permanently to Sharon, where he met his wife, Shirley, a longtime Sharon resident.

During his time in Sharon, Frank was an active member of two churches: St. Bernard’s Roman Catholic Church and the Sharon United Methodist Church, of which he was an associate member and a trustee emeritus.

He continued to pursue his love of music and was a member of the Torrington Symphony, the Columbia-Greene Wind Ensemble, the Kent School Concert Band and the Salisbury Band.

Frank was also an avid reader, bird-watcher and student of current affairs and U.S. history.

Above all for those that knew him, Frank will always be remembered as a gentleman who loved and was devoted to his family and paid close attention to the accomplishments of his children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

In addition to his wife, he is survived by four children, Richard Evan Dearstyne, Patricia Davisson, Cecilia Jensen and Christopher Paul Dearstyne; seven stepchildren; 25 grandchildren; 15 great-grandchildren; and the seven remaining members of his father’s second family from Cambridge, N.Y.

Frank was predeceased by his brother, Worthington Dearstyne; and two of his six children, Joel and Barbara Ellen.

A Mass of Christian burial will be celebrated at St. Bernard’s Roman Catholic Church in Sharon on Thursday, Aug. 19, at 11 a.m. Graveside services will follow immediately at the Hillside Cemetery, also in Sharon.

Friends may call and visit briefly at the Kenny Funeral Home on Main Street the day of the funeral from 9:30 to 10:30 a.m.

Memorial donations may be made in Frank’s name to St. Bernard’s Roman Catholic Church and/or to the Sharon United Methodist Church.

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