Mary Agnus (Towers) Laidman

Mary Agnus (Towers) Laidman

SALISBURY — Mary Agnus (Towers) Laidman, 97, died Jan. 1, 2022. She was the wife for 42 years of Dr. Herbert Andrew Laidman, who predeceased her in 1987.

Mary was born in Brooklyn, N.Y., on Jan. 31, 1924, the daughter of the late Mary (Campbell) and Daniel John Towers.

She graduated  from Prospect Heights Hospital with an R.N. degree in 1945 and then attended Columbia University, where she received a B.S. in Nursing. Mary was a nurse for many years in the greater metro New York area.

Later in life, she attended the Westchester School of Counseling and Psychotherapy, where she received a degree in addiction counseling. Mary worked for more than 12 years at Serenity Hill, later Parkside Lodge (now Mountainside) in North Canaan. She developed and ran the Family Program there and was the assistant manager.

She was also a volunteer for more than 12 years at Sharon Hospital as a patient representative.

She was an avid swimmer and a longtime member of the Kilpatrick Athletic Center in Great Barrington, where she swam three to four times a week and developed a group of close friends.

Those who knew her understand why she made such a great nurse, counselor and patient advocate. She had a sixth sense about people, was incredibly intuitive and truly cared for people.

Make no mistake: She was no shrinking violet. She stood up for her rights and those of others. Her motto was Primum, Non Nocere (“First, Do No Harm”) taken from the AMA.

For 42 years Mary and her love, Herb, shared a beautiful, active life together. As their only child, daughter Mimi and Mary were very close.

Mary loved her grandchildren and spent a lot of time with them. She and Kyle would spend many weekends when he was young going on “adventures” to fairs, events, museums etc. and even up in an open-air bi-plane. Mary and Zoe loved their dress-up, formal tea parties, playing what they called, “The Ladies from Baltimore.” She was so happy at the arrival of her great-grandson, Kane.   

Mary is survived by her daughter, Mimi Harson, AKA Mary Elizabeth Laidman; her beloved grandchildren, Kyle J. Laidman and Zoe E. Harson; and her great-grandson, Kane A. Laidman

She was predeceased by her brother, John Towers; and her sister, Virginia Towers Frawley.

Her wit, wisdom and love will be greatly missed.

Arrangements are under the care of the Kenny Funeral Home in Sharon.

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