Take time to remember the good

This weekend will be full of reminders of perhaps the most significant collective event of many of our lives — the attacks of Sept. 11, 2001. I am sure that most of us can vividly recall where we were and what we were doing that morning.

Other national tragedies have imprinted themselves upon our collective memory: the assassinations of John F. Kennedy, Martin Luther King Jr. and Robert Kennedy and the explosions of the space shuttles Challenger and Colombia.

We forget sometimes that we also have collective good memories: the end of World War II, the first steps on the moon, the 1980 Olympic hockey victories and the fall of the Berlin Wall.

Life is really about the good memories, so in the midst of reliving the horror of 10 years ago, take pause to perhaps cherish some smaller and happier individual memories.

The very first sight of your child.

Your first car.

Your first kiss.

The first sight of your spouse-to-be at your wedding.

Your first day of college.

Graduation.

Your child’s first day of school.

Your first job.

 Nearly all of these memories are perhaps related to the newness of the situation, the “first.” The anticipation and the excitement finally culminate in the event itself, since most of those memories involve planning or time (with perhaps the exception of the spontaneity of that first kiss).

But all those events are typically followed by a second: the second job or day at school, the second kiss or sight of your spouse, the second car (and second car payment). Do those seconds have the same pull on our memories?

Since I am not from New England and I do not have any other ties to this area, I did not personally know any of the victims of the attack on the World Trade Center. Nor did I know any of the victims in Washington, D.C., or Pennsylvania.

So here is my Midwestern perspective on an individual reaction to the 9/11 attacks: Make those second (and third and fourth) memories as special as the first, because it may be the last.

Take pleasure in the simple pleasure of living life.

The next sunrise and sunset.

The smell of coffee.

The “obligatory” morning kiss.

The curt and habitual “good morning” to your co-workers.

A family dinner.

Slow down and take it in. Enjoy the time with your family and friends and even the time you have alone. Smile. Say “hello” to someone on the street (that’s a Midwestern thing that I still need to teach you folks around here). Secretly buy someone a cup of coffee or a small sack of groceries.

Despite our current economic woes, we still have a very comfortable lifestyle, yet we stress because our Internet is slow or traffic is heavy or our cell phone loses its signal. Have we become that desensitized to living? Let’s take back our joy of living.  

Take time this weekend to re-discover the happy things in your life. Make time in the rest of your life for living.

Dale Martin is the town manager of Winchester.

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