When the guide gets it wrong

Rosa setigera is a native climbing rose whose simple flowers allow bees to easily collect pollen.
Dee Salomon

Rosa setigera is a native climbing rose whose simple flowers allow bees to easily collect pollen.
After moving to West Cornwall in 2012, we were given a thoughtful housewarming gift: the 1997 edition of “Dirr’s Hardy Trees and Shrubs.” We were told the encyclopedic volume was the definitive gardener’s reference guide — a fact I already knew, having purchased one several months earlier at the recommendation of a gardener I admire.
At the time, we were in the thick of winter invasive removal, and I enjoyed reading and dreaming about the trees and shrubs I could plant to fill in the bare spots where the bittersweet, barberry, multiflora rose and other invasive plants had been.Years later, I purchased the 2011 edition, updated and inclusive of plants for warm climates.
On the cover of the new edition, a quote from Adrian Higgins of The Washington Post boasts, “Michael Dirr is the oracle of ornamental horticulture. I trust his judgements implicitly.”I heartily disagree with Mr. Higgins:I blame this book — and my poor use of it — for some of my worst tree and shrub choices.
I realize some readers might find this declaration inflammatory. The book still occupies a place of high regard among experienced and novice gardeners alike, so please allow me to explain.
In addition to giving the reader his opinion on the aesthetic worthiness of the woody plants included in the book, Mr. Dirr makes good on the book’s title with a review of each species’ hardiness. What makes a tree hardy?It thrives in its intended site, resisting disease with leaves and bark not readily eaten by insects and other critters.
Non-native plants make up the majority of the recommended hardy plants in the book.And here is why:Native trees and shrubs are, by evolution’s design, food source and host to our native fauna — critters large and small. There is no substitute equal to the fauna’s co-evolved flora.A native caterpillar cannot eat a kousa dogwood leaf, as it has not evolved to digest it.Non-native plants seemingly have the advantage if the lens we look through values pristine, uneaten leaves.
In the days when there were sufficient thriving ecosystems to maintain local habitats, a non-native specimen tree here and there was just fine.But where we live in Northwest Connecticut, our woods, meadows, marshes and other natural areas have, for a couple of decades, been severely compromised by invasives that have almost entirely removed the food sources for native insects. It is up to us — now — to plant native plants to save the food chain.Without insects, not only will native animals die, but human food sources will also be at risk.
The security of our food pipeline seems a worthy exchange for some caterpillar-eaten leaves — and to be clear, we’re not talking about non-native infestations such as spongy moth, but rather native caterpillars, which are the singular food source for nesting birds.
My issue is that, in being a trusted source for plant selection, Dirr’s book should give equal — if not prioritized — space to information on ecological impact.For example, it would be good to know when selecting a tree, that a native oak provides food and other ecosystem services to more than 400 native animal species, while a native tulip poplar supports fewer than 30 — though that includes the Eastern tiger swallowtail. Including information on the birds and insects attracted to a given plant would enable reader to weigh these factors in choosing what to grow.But this information is not mentioned at all.
Dirr makes no mention of the role some of these plants have played in the degradation of our natural areas — an omission that is highly relevant, as many of the plants featured in his book are, in fact, invasive culprits. Plants like barberry, porcelain berry and tree of heaven are showcased for consideration alongside native plants without recognition of the devastating infestations they can manifest. Tree of Heaven is now responsible for hosting the spotted lanternfly, which is devastating crops.
Similarly Euonymous alatus (winged euonymous) and Actinidia arguta (hardy kiwi) — two highly invasive plants touted in the book — have been banned or are close to being banned for sale from nurseries in the state of Massachusetts. To his credit, Dirr does point out the invasive nature of Ligustrum sinense (Chinese privet), calling it “a terrible and devastating escapee that terrorizes floodplains, fencerows and even open fields, reducing native vegetation to rubble.” Yet Japanese honeysuckle gets an understated warning, with Dirr describing this massively invasive shrub as “bullying their way into understory and open areas.”
The latest edition of Dirr’s book devotes seven pages of copy and photos to various Berberis species, about which Dirr waxes poetic. He notes the addition of “30 new cultivars” in the latest revision and complains that “this species is under assault for its aggressive invasive nature.” He refers to Berberis thunbergii — Japanese barberry, the most invasive of them all — as “the species of major importance in garden commerce.” This plant has already been outlawed for sale in New York, Pennsylvania, New Hamphsire and Maine.A few weeks ago, a bill was passed in Connecticut recognizing the harm of a broad group of invasive plants. Under this new legislation, barberry will be phased out from sale or transport by October 2028.
In understating the invasive nature of many non-natives and de-prioritizing the importance of native species, Dirr’s widely used reference may be partly responsible for many a devastated woodland, forest, meadow and marsh in New England — if not across the U.S.Certainly, the evolution of species, and scientific knowledge about the environment, is changing faster than new editions of books can be printed. I can only hope that if a new edition of Mr. Dirr’s reference book is in the works that it will account for this criteria we now know to be vital in plant selection.
Which brings me back to that quote on the cover from The Washington Post and the larger issue it suggests:Should “ornamental horticulture” get a pass when it comes to ecological survival?I think we can agree — it should not.The consequences are simply too destructive.
Dee Salomon ‘ungardens’ in Litchfield County.
Christian Murray
Carlos and Yesica Gomez, with their son Xavier, stand outside Teo Tacos, which they hope to open by the end of the month.
NORTH CANAAN — A new Mexican restaurant is set to open in North Canaan later this month, bringing a family-run dining option to Main Street.
Teo Tacos, owned by Carlos Gomez and his wife, Yesica Gomez, is expected to open April 30 at 85 Main St., the former site of Berkshire Country Cafe near the train station. The restaurant will feature a menu of Mexican staples, including tacos, burritos, enchiladas, nachos and quesadillas, along with chips and salsa, and guacamole.
The space will seat about 40 people and will not serve alcohol. Inside, bright orange walls, simple wood tables and large arched mirrors create a casual setting. The restaurant is located near Trackside Tacos, which opened its doors in July 2025.
For the couple, who live in Torrington, the opening brings together their background in the restaurant industry and connection to North Canaan.
“We would always travel through North Canaan,” Carlos Gomez said. “We saw the town, and it always looked like a happy town. There are always people walking around, and we love to see that.”
Yesica Gomez, who currently works as a family support specialist with Family Strides, frequently visits the area to meet with families. Before that, she spent more than a decade in the restaurant industry, including nine years as a manager at McDonald’s in Torrington.

Carlos Gomez, originally from Mexico, has worked in restaurants since arriving in the United States at age 22. His first job was at a Mexican restaurant, and he most recently worked at an Italian restaurant in Avon.
“This country has treated me well,” he said. “People treat me as though I were born here.”
Yesica Gomez, who immigrated to the U.S. from the Dominican Republic as a child, said her father brought the family to Connecticut for better educational opportunities. It was after graduating high school in 2009 that she met Carlos. When she needed a ride to apply to college, her brother-in-law suggested a friend could take her — that friend was Carlos.
“We’ve been together since,” Yesica Gomez said.
They now are raising three children, ages 11, 5, and 3, with a fourth due in July.
The menu is expected to be affordably priced, and the couple has yet to finalize hours. The restaurant’s name, Teo Tacos, is a tribute to Carlos Gomez’s mother, Teodora, who still lives in Mexico.
“We’re excited for what’s ahead,” Carlos Gomez said.
Patrick L. Sullivan
Malcolm Mitchell spokeabout the importance of reading at IMS April 17.
LAKEVILLE — Malcolm Mitchell was sitting pretty after Super Bowl LI on Feb. 5, 2017.
The wide receiver’s New England Patriots defeated the Atlanta Falcons 34-28 in one of the biggest comebacks in Super Bowl history.
Mitchell was a big part of that, catching five passes from quarterback Tom Brady in the fourth quarter and converting four of them into first downs.
But Mitchell was battling a bad knee. He did not play at all in 2018 and retired the following year.
Off the field, he was dealing with something even more personal: he could only read at about a fourth-grade level. How he confronted and overcame that obstacle became the focus of his remarks to students at Indian Mountain School in Lakeville on Friday, April 17.
He told the students that he grew up in a poor, single-parent household in Valdosta, Georgia. Valdosta High School was named as the community with the richest sports tradition by ESPN in 2008, and Mitchell played for the high school and for the University of Georgia.
But it was a difficult life. Hunger was a factor, he said. Mitchell credited his mother for setting a strong, positive example.
“But love can’t fix a runaway stomach,” Mitchell said.
The family relied on food stamps, and when the food started to run out toward the end of the month, Mitchell and a couple of friends worked out a scheme to steal chips, candy and sodas from a convenience store and make their escape along nearby railroad tracks.
He told the students that life presented him with choices, and he didn’t always make good ones.
Neither did his friends. One of the boys involved in the convenience store caper is dead, Mitchell said, and the other is in prison.
By age 17, Mitchell said he began drawing interest from top college football programs, but was academically ineligible.
His 11th grade social studies teacher worked with him after school to get his grades up.
“She forced me to understand the potential of my life,” Mitchell said.
At age 21, a star athlete at the University of Georgia, Mitchell was embarrassed by his lack of reading ability.
He went to a bookstore and bought a pile of children’s books.
“Dr. Seuss, Shel Silverstein, I read them all,” he remembered.
He described a methodical process, reading the picture books to develop his vocabulary and learn sentence structure.
Then he moved on to graphic novels and eventually books written for adults.
Now, at age 32, he reads widely and constantly.
Mitchell published his first children’s book, “The Magician’s Hat,” in 2016.
He travels the country, speaking to schools about reading and about life. He told the students that their job is “to wake up every day and be the absolute best you can be.”
After his remarks, Mitchell fielded questions from a group of student journalists.
One question was how he converted a weakness – reading comprehension – into a strength.
“It’s the life I live now,” he replied.
He said he had college and pro teammates with the same problem who were encouraged by his forthrightness. “In confirming my weakness, I liberated others.”
“The first step to growing is admitting where you currently are,” he said.
Mitchell threw in a little NFL tidbit at the end of the discussion.
He said he was staying late at practice, in part to try and get to know Brady – a notoriously hard worker –better.
He noticed that Brady rubbed something on his skin after his shower.
Afterwards, he peeked into Brady’s locker and saw it was coconut oil.
The next day, he confessed to Brady that he’d looked in the locker and asked why he used coconut oil.
“He was married at the time to one of the most beautiful women on the planet,” said Mitchell, referring to model Giselle Bundchen, who was married to Brady from 2009 to 2022.
“He said she rubbed coconut oil on herself every day.” Mitchell paused and then grinned. “So now I wear coconut oil every day.”
Lakeville Journal
Legal Notice
Town of Salisbury
Board of Finance
Notice of Public Hearing In-person Meeting
Monday April 27, 2026, 7:30pm
A public hearing called by the Board of Finance will be held in-person at 7:30pm on Monday April 27, 2026 at Salisbury Town Hall, 27 Main Street, Salisbury, CT 06068 with the following agenda:
1. To receive public comment on the proposed Board of Education budget as presented.
2. To receive public comment on the proposed Board of Selectmen, town government budget as presented.
Note: Copies of the proposed budgets are available at Salisbury Town Clerks office.
Board of Finance meeting immediately following the Public Hearing
1. Final Budget Review; Discussion and possible vote to present the Board of Education and Board of Selectmen, Town Government Budget to the Annual Town Budget meeting, which will take place on Wednesday, May 13th, 2026 at 7:30pm
Kristine M. Simmons
Town Clerk of Salisbury
04-16-26
04-23-26
Legal Notice
The Planning & Zoning Commission of the Town of Salisbury will hold a Public Hearing on Special Permit Application #2026-0312 by owner Claudia Pacicco Remley for detached apartment on a single-family residential lot at 80 Rocky Lane, Salisbury, Map 66, Lot 28 per Section 208 of the Salisbury Zoning Regulations. The hearing will be held on Monday, May 4, 2026 at 6:45 PM. There is no physical location for this meeting. This meeting will be held virtually via Zoom where interested persons can listen to & speak on the matter. The application, agenda and meeting instructions will be listed at www.salisburyct.us/agendas/. The application materials will be listed at www.salisburyct.us/planning-zoning-meeting-documents/. Written comments may be submitted to the Land Use Office, Salisbury Town Hall, 27 Main Street, P.O. Box 548, Salisbury, CT or via email to landuse@salisburyct.us. Paper copies of the agenda, meeting instructions, and application materials may be reviewed Monday through Thursday between the hours of 8:00 AM and 3:30 PM at the Land Use Office, Salisbury Town Hall, 27 Main Street, Salisbury CT.
Salisbury Planning & Zoning Commission
Robert Riva, Secretary
04-23-26
04-30-26
Notice of Decision
Town of Salisbury
Inland Wetlands & Watercourses Commission
Notice is hereby given that the following action was taken by the Inland Wetlands & Watercourses Commission of the Town of Salisbury, Connecticut on April 13, 2026:
- Application IWWC-26-19 by Jessica Toro for cutting of scattered invasive plants in a seasonally wet area along Weatogue Road and painting stumps with wetland approved herbicide. The property is shown on Salisbury Assessor’s map 25 lot 18 and is known as 273 Weatogue Road, Salisbury, CT. The owner of the property is Estelina L Dallett.
Any aggrieved person may appeal this decision to the Connecticut Superior Court in accordance with the provisions of Connecticut General Statutes §22a-43(a) & §8-8.
Town of Salisbury
Inland Wetlands and Watercourses Commission
Sally Spillane, Secretary
04-23-26
TAX COLLECTOR
TOWN OF
SALISBURY CT
LEGAL NOTICE
Pursuant to Sec. 12-145 of the Connecticut State Statutes, the taxpayers of the Town of Salisbury are hereby notified that the fourth installment on the Grand List of October 1, 2024 is due and payable on April 1, 2026. Payments must be received or postmarked by May 1, 2026. If said Real Estate and Personal Property taxes are not paid on or before May 1, 2026, interest at the rate of one and one half percent (18% per year) will be added for each month or a fraction thereof which elapses from the time when such tax becomes due and payable until the same is paid. Minimum interest charge is $2.00.
Pursuant to Section 12-173 of the Connecticut State Statutes, unpaid Real Estate tax on the Grand List of October 1, 2024 will be LIENED on JUNE 3, 2026. Payment must be received by 12:00 p.m. on June 3, 2026 to avoid a Lien. Tax Office is open Monday, Wednesday 9am-4pm, Friday 9am-3pm. Closed 12:30 pm-1:30 pm.
Taxes can be paid by mail addressed to: Tax Collector, P.O. Box 338, 27 Main Street, Salisbury,
CT 06068. There is a drop box in the vestibule of the Town Hall which is available during normal Town Hall hours as well as a 24-hour drop slot at the rear of the building adjacent to the parking area. The Town is urging taxpayers to mail checks or use the option of paying by credit card or E-Check. Please see the Town website salisburyct.us for additional information. Dated at Town of Salisbury, CT this 6th day of March 2026.
Jean F. Bell, CCMC
Tax Collector
Salisbury CT 06068
03-19-26
04-02-26
04-23-26
NOTICE TO CREDITORS
ESTATE OF
ERICA C. PRUD’HOMME
Late of Cornwall
(26-00125)
The Hon. Jordan M. Richards, Judge of the Court of Probate, District of Litchfield Hills Probate Court, by decree dated March 24, 2026, ordered that all claims must be presented to the fiduciary at the address below. Failure to promptly present any such claim may result in the loss of rights to recover on such claim.
The fiduciary is:
Alexander Prud’homme
c/o James J Flaherty
Chipman, Mazzucco Emerson LLC, 900 Main Street South, Suite 102, Southbury, CT 06488
Megan M.Foley
Clerk
04-23-26
NOTICE TO CREDITORS
ESTATE OF LAWRENCE VINCENT POWER
Late of Salisbury
AKA Lawrence V. Power
(26-00138)
The Hon. Jordan M. Richards, Judge of the Court of Probate, District of Litchfield Hills Probate Court, by decree dated March 31, 2026, ordered that all claims must be presented to the fiduciary at the address below. Failure to promptly present any such claim may result in the loss of rights to recover on such claim.
The fiduciary is:
Lea Purdum Davies
c/o Linda M Patz
Drury, Patz & Citrin, LLP
7 Church Street,
P.O. Box 101
Canaan, CT 06018
Megan M.Foley
Clerk
04-23-26
NOTICE TO CREDITORS
ESTATE OF
HARRY P. FINDLAY
Late of Salisbury
(26-00103)
The Hon. Jordan M. Richards, Judge of the Court of Probate, District of Litchfield Hills Probate Court, by decree dated March 10, 2026, ordered that all claims must be presented to the fiduciary at the address below. Failure to promptly present any such claim may result in the loss of rights to recover on such claim.
The fiduciary is:
Louis Figliuzzi
c/o Catherine Mary Brennan
Catherine M Brennan
Attorney at Law LLC
34 E. Putnam Ave Ste 103
Greenwhich, CT 06830
Megan M.Foley
Clerk
04-23-26
NOTICE TO CREDITORS
ESTATE OF
ANDREW J. PARISE
Late of New York
(26-00023)
The Hon. Jordan M. Richards, Judge of the Court of Probate, District of Litchfield Hills Probate Court, by decree dated March 19, 2026, ordered that all claims must be presented to the fiduciary at the address below. Failure to promptly present any such claim may result in the loss of rights to recover on such claim.
The fiduciary is:
Deborah Parise
c/o Tatiana Michelle Fonsec Dasilva, Cohen and Wolf, P.C.
1115 Broad Street, Bridgeport, CT 06604
Megan M.Foley
Clerk
04-23-26

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Lakeville Journal
Jay’s Lawn Care is hiring full and Part-time: lawn maintenance employees. Experience operating Scag mowing equipment and ability to drive truck and trailer is needed. Salary dependent on experience. Call 860-824-0053 to schedule an interview.
The Town of Cornwall is hiring lifeguards: and Water Safety Instructors for the 2026 season at Hammond Beach. For more information or to apply, contact Jane Hall, Beach Director, at Hbeach@cornwallct.gov.
Town of Cornwall Hiring: The Town of Cornwall has a fulltime job opening for Highway Department Maintainer. For more details and to apply, contact first Selectmen’s office 860-672-4959.
Wyantenuck Country Club is seeking staff for the 2026 season: Want to work in a beautiful setting with a great team? Full and Part-Time employment available. Positions Available: Bartenders, Dishwashers, Line Cooks, Waitstaff. Please email: brandon@wyantenuck.org or call 413-528-0350.
Wyantenuck Country Club seeks a Sous Chef: Benefits Available. Work in a beautiful setting with a great team. Please email:
brandon@wyantenuck.org or call 413-528-0350.
TOWN OF SHARON HELP WANTED: Land Use Administrator - Full-time, salary range of $57,020-$71,275, depending on experience, plus benefits (some starting after one year). Responsible for coordinating,managing, and processing all proposals for land development in the town. Qualifications: High school diploma or GED (Associates Degree Preferred) with 4 years increasingly responsible work experience preferably in administrative work, public contact, field of land use and municipal government, or any equivalent combination and experience. For full job description, see the Town of Sharon Website (sharonct.gov) or contact the Selectmen’s Office at 860-364-5789. Applications and resumes are to be received in the Selectmen’s Office, P. O. Box 385, Sharon, CT 06069 by 4:00PM May 8, 2026. The Town of Sharon is an equal opportunity employer.
TOWN OF SHARON HELP WANTED: Building Official - Full-time, salary range of $72,000-$90,000, depending on experience, plus benefits (starting after one year). Responsible for administering and enforcing the State of CT Building Code in the town. Qualifications: Associates Degree or Advanced Technical Courses related to building construction and/or design and over five years increasingly responsible experience in supervising the construction or design of buildings or any equivalent combination of education, training and experience to meet the State Certification requirements. Required to have or obtain State Certified Building Official License. For full job description, see the Town of Sharon Website (sharonct.gov) or contact the Selectmen’sOffice at 860-364-5789. Applications and resumes are to be received in the Selectmen’s Office, P. O. Box 385, Sharon, CT 06069 by 4:00PM May 8, 2026. The Town of Sharon is an equal opportunity employer.
TOWN OF SHARON HELP WANTED: Fire Marshal - Part-time, salary range of $20,000-$25,000, depending on experience. Responsible for the fire code enforcement, fire investigation, inspections, permitting and public safety education in the town. Qualifications: Associates Degree or Advanced Technical Courses, and over five years increasingly responsible experience in a fire department or related inspection experience. Required to have or obtain State Fire Marshal Certification. For full job description, see the Town of Sharon Website (sharonct.gov) or contact the Selectmen’s Office at 860-364-5789. Applications and resumes are to be received in the Selectmen’s Office, P. O. Box 385, Sharon, CT 06069 by 4:00 PM May 8, 2026. The Town of Sharon is an equal opportunity employer.
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Highly Skilled Caretaker/Gardener: Available. Mature, experienced manager of estates and small farms seeks a position with housing on a local property in Sharon-Lakeville-Salisbury area. Extensive background in horticulture-able to operate all types of machinery. Well versed in all aspects of building and property maintenance and care. Able to work without supervision-honest and reliable. Please call Martin at 646- 599-0773. Thanks.
PUBLISHER’S NOTICE: Equal Housing Opportunity.All real estate advertised in this newspaper is subject to the Federal Fair Housing Act of 1966 revised March 12, 1989 which makes it illegal to advertise any preference, limitation, or discriminationbased on race, color religion, sex, handicap or familial status or national origin or intention to make any such preference, limitation or discrimination. All residential property advertised in the State of Connecticut General Statutes 46a-64c which prohibit the making, printing or publishing or causing to be made, printed or published any notice, statement or advertisement with respect to the sale or:rental of a dwelling that indicates any preference, limitation or discrimination based on race, creed, color, national origin, ancestry, sex, marital status, age, lawfulsource of income, familial status, physical or mental disability or an intention to make any such preference, limitation or discrimination.
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NORFOLK –Roomful of Blues, the Rhode Island-based band hailed by DownBeat magazine as being “in a class by themselves,” will bring its mix of blues, jump, swing, boogie-woogie and soul to Infinity Hall in Norfolk on Friday, April 17, at 8 p.m.
The long-running group, formed in 1967, is touring behind its Alligator Records album Steppin’ Out!, released in late 2025.
“They kick out the jams and take us higher and higher, swinging and swaying with pulsing horns and pulsating guitars. Richly textured, raucous and rambunctious - we’re dancing from the first track to the last,” according to a review by Living Blues magazine.
Performing non-stop for 55 years, the band is led by master guitarist Chris Vachon, who has played with the band for three decades. “We always keep things fresh, and we keep the excitement level high,” says Vachon. “Playing this music is an immense amount of fun for us. And it’s just as much fun for our audience.”
Roomful of Blues has performed with B.B. King, Otis Rush, Stevie Ray Vaughn, Eric Clapton, and Carlos Santana, garnered five Grammy nominations, received seven Blues Music awards, and was chosen Best Blues Band twice by the prestigious DownBeat International Critic’s Poll. The band has performed in 22 countries.
Since 1970, tenor and alto sax player Rich Lataille has led the band’s horn section. His playing can “evoke either the fat-toned, honking sax of the glory days of early rock or the cool elegance of big band swing jazz,” according to their liner notes. The band features a new keyboardist, Jeff Ceasrine, bassist Lou Bocciarelli, drummer Mike Coffey, baritone and tenor sax player Craig Thomas, and trumpeter Christopher Pratt.
Still breaking new ground after thousands of live shows and nineteen previous releases, the band’s album “Steppin’ Out!” marks another milestone. It is their first recording to feature a female lead vocalist, showcasing the sweet and soulful voice of D.D. Bastos. The late great Count Basie once called them the “hottest blues band I’ve ever heard.”
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Lakeville Journal
MILLERTON — Robert E. Stapf Sr. (Bobbo), a devoted husband, loving father, grandfather, great grandfather, brother and friend to many, passed away peacefully on April 9, 2026, at the age of 77, happily at home surrounded by lots and lots of love and with the best care ever.
Bob was born Jan. 16, 1949, to the late Peter and Dorothy (Fountain) Stapf. He began working at an early age, met his forever love, Sandy, in 7th grade and later graduated from Pine Plains Central School.
Following graduation, Bob and Sandy (Snyder) were married on Sept. 18, 1971. Bob soon began as a diesel mechanic, working at H.O. Penn and then Dutchess County Diesel for most of his career. He also loved every minute at Orvis Sandanona and all the other clubs where he worked with his dogs for over 50 years.
While Bob was happy outdoors hunting, snowmobiling and playing golf whenever he could and spending a lot of time customizing his 1949 Chevy Pickup, winning a lot of trophies at car shows all around, he was happiest spending time with family and friends. He could be found almost every morning having coffee with his buddies at Talk of the Town where he was “the mayor.”
Bob is survived by his loving wife of 54 years and best nurse, Sandy, of Millerton, his four children; Michelle Cianfarani and her husband Vinnie, Robin Stapf and her husband Rob, Bobby Jr. and his wife Jean and Kristofer Stapf and his wife Lauren, his 7 grandchildren; Zachary, Adriana, Mackenzie, Addison, “Bobcat,” Audrey and Maddie and his 2 great grandchildren; Nevaeh and Leiana. Bob is also survived by his 3 sisters; Barbara Holdridge (Everett), Debbie Bryant (Terry) and Wendy Lind (George), his 2 brothers: Peter Stapf (Donna) and John Stapf (Jane) along with many nieces and nephews.
The family would like to send our love and sincere appreciation to all of the wonderful nurses and doctors at Vassar Brothers Medical Center along with the nurses from Hospice Care who always took such great care of Bob for us.
Family and friends are invited to share memories and offer condolences on Tuesday, April 21, 2026, from 5:00 to 8:00 p.m. at Peck & Peck Funeral Homes, 7749 South Main Street, Pine Plains, New York.
In lieu of flowers, please consider making a small donation to Hospice Care for continued support to those who need it most. For directions, share a favorite memory or to leave a message of condolence for the family please visit www.peckandpeck.net

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